HELP! I feel like the Perils of Polly Pureheart here again. When I told H that I thought we should keep to the original plan and meet as proposed halfway, he went off into an 8.5" x 11" rant that I won't subject you to, but basically said I was unreasonable, selfish, greedy, etc, etc, and so on. After I calmed down, I responded with the following:
"I'm sorry you feel this way. I had hoped we would come to some sort of settlement as far as the house is concerned, but perhaps you are right, and it would be best settled in court. No, I didn't "go after" as you put it Darel & Greg. We didn't have anything, but the house, and that was mine. You remember, my house that I sold so we could build the home for retirement? The land in the country with the stocked fishpond that made you so happy? I've worked alongside you for twenty years towards the "dream retirement". Oh, and 'those kids'? I believe two of them are yours. It's not as if you married me not knowing the package deal. I would like to say Thank you. I have a closer and warmer relationship with all the kids & grands than ever before. I spent too many years putting you in front of everything else, and discovered that no one can make another happy. You have to make yourself happy. You don't sound very happy yourself"
He responded with:
"What is up with the house now? That is too easy, we keep it on the market until it sells and then we split the profit it half. I thought that was already settled between us... Please clarify the way you want to settle this..... Everytime you email me, it is about a different issue, the finer things, maintenance and displacement, now it's the house.......what is it..... You didn't answer my question about sitting down and the lawyers office and come to an resolution.... Let's put our personal feelings aside and get this over with so we both can move on with our lives.... "
I really am at a loss as to how to respond. In his rant, he refused to meet halfway as planned, but wants to sit down civilly, as long as it's at his lawyer's office. She must be pushing really, really hard. I don't think I said anything offensive or angrily. Should I respond at all?????
