I have found it very useful. I have changed alot of the ways I deal with my feelings already.
True change takes time….a lot of time….true change can be painful at first and then….uplifting as you begin to realize what YOU really knew all along.
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Its hard not to react to some things my H does, but I try.
No one ever said this was easy….did they? “Try”….why not replace that with “DO”.
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I definitely will tell him when he has crossed a boundery or anything like that now.
Actions speak louder than words……sometime we do not need to “tell them anything”….by our actions we speak….
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AND he is just that...miserable.
AND are YOU Really happy? ARE you really working on being totally happy?
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I over heard a conversation that he had on the phone last night.
Overheard or snooped…you can be honest…
FTR, if you were intentionally quite in an attempt to listen in…that is in my book snooping.
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Guess there are things going on that I just dont know about.
If you were really totally focused on YOU…you probably would not care what was going on with him.
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I am trying to do things that make me happy,
That’s good….
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and he still tries to control me.
Can someone control YOU if YOU do not allow it?
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BUT I have to say, over the last 4 years, this is the worse I have seen him get.
This may be a good thing….remember…they must fall before they can rise.
Kissak, I am not trying to bust on ya here…Maybe I am wrong BUT it seems to me that you are still way to focused on your H. If I am wrong I am sorry.
Look inside YOU Kissak….
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
