Just remember that the OW IS a symptom on the problem and NOT the problem. You will probably start to beat yourself up, your self esteem may take a hit – DON’T LET IT!
You are NOT responsible for your H’s actions – HE IS.
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I am not "physically" married right now I am not "emotionally" married right now I am not "financially" married right now I am "spiritually" married right now and I am "legally" married right now.
So…what does marriage mean to YOU…NOT to YOUR H, not to ME, not to YOUR family…what does it mean to you? BEFORE you can answer this one IB, you first will need to….
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Who / what am I right now?
Answer this ^^^^^
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Is it still possible to stand this way?
You tell me…is it? Does your love and stand come with an expectation?
What are YOUR values and beliefs? Not mine…YOUR.
IB, I am not trying to be hard on YOU…
This is YOUR time….
Take it…
Take it not to save YOUR M….
Take it to heal….
Take it to learn about yourself….
Learn who you are…away from YOUR H….
What IB is made of….
Can she do this….
You have heard this before….the answers to YOUR questions are inside of YOU….
Look the fear right in the eye….face that f’er….
The search of our soul can be painful IB – I’m not gonna lie to you. You may see things about yourself that YOU do not like. Those, my friend are the ones that you work on…NOT for YOUR H….FOR YOU…
You been through a lot these past few weeks…
You have grown and show your strength….
The urge to quit may come flying in like a tornado….
Question will be….
Will IB…quit on herself….
I think not…but what I think does not matter….it is WHAT YOU THINK.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
