just a brief recap. physically apart for about 5 months now. nc for about 3 months. h has avoided me the entire time - used to play at the same squash club as me but now avoids the club entirely. i do not call, text, email, whatnot. he gained weight, i look fine.
ball in my court on separation agreement. 7 months ago, i laid out plan A. very fair offer. h did not agree - called me names, etc. h said no. he laid out plan B. little did h know, plan B would cost him more in the end. h said he wanted this over with as quickly as possible. you want plan B and quickly? you got it.
within a month, i got my stuff to my l. i'm good to go. several months later, h still does not have his crap together. instead, he wrote a long rant to his l on how unfair the process is to him.
his l called my l and said look, i think we should go with plan A and call it a day. he thinks he can convince my h to go with my original plan. my l asked me what i wanted.
i'm furious. after all this time and money wasted .. after the name-calling and accusations, we go back to plan A which is what i suggested from day 1? i want to say nfw. but it would be nice to get it over with quickly and move on.
what would pdt suggest? he always set me straight from a moral standpoint. i'm not looking for legal advice. i'm looking for a way to decide without letting my emotions get the best of me.
at this point, i don't even think this m is salvageable. he sees $$$ as more important than human beings. how can you love someone like that?
