Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[NotCrackingUp]

Hi Dagny

He sounds like a selfish, immature ba***rd, but so does mine, when I talk about what he does. Our situations are 1000s of km apart, but how similar! My H's life when he doesn't have the kids is a complete mystery to me. He is very unforthcoming about his free nights, especially about weekends. But I ask NO questions (that way I'll be told no more lies than strictly necessary).However, HE asks ME what I'm at, where I'm going. And also checks it out with the 2 younger children.

It sounds as if your H (much like mine) would actually like you to hang about on hold until he decides if he really wants this OW long term or not.As a kind of "hedged bet". Where the hell does that leave you? He wants you to take responsibility for ending the marriage? Wants your boys to see you as the one churning up their lives? The less you see of him/speak to him the better, for the moment.For your sanity. I really feel for you. I often have to pinch myself to believe the a man I loved so much and who loved me could turn out this way. But it's only a stage in his life. One way or another, this'll pass.
NCU