Now I'm Walking Away

[Doodi]

I'm the only one who is seeing DB'ing as a never ending cycle.

* They (or in my case I) drop the bomb.
* Spouse freaks clings and scares us away.
* Spouse starts to DB and looks starts become more attractive
* Spouse goes dark/drops the rope etc
* WAS interest is peaked and is now clinging
* positions flip and the process starts over.

So when does it end. How do you get back to that even ground where its not always someone being the dumper/dumpee. When does it ever just get back to being 'normal'