This is hard stuff. Really hard. And I know you feel like you were sucker-punched and brought to your knees. To say you are on a rollercoaster is an understatement. I know it. It's more like a rollercoaster during a hurricane and you're stuck upside down, right?
Here's the thing. You will keep hearing us tell you stuff like detach, focus on yourself, GAL and all. And that stuff is necessary in order for you to get through this.
But the first thing you have to do, in my opinion, is decide how you want to live your life. What does that look like to you?
Whatever path your wife is on, it is hers to walk. Let her.
You, on the other hand, need to walk yours.
So, a good way to start is to decide the things about yourself you want to change. For you.
Then, start to think about things that might make you happy.
Start there.
As hard as it is, please try to take care of yourself and try as hard as you can to minimize contact with your wife. Only engage when absolutely necessary. And do it in a way that is not confrontational or accusacatory. This is for you.
This is a way for you to start to be the person you were meant to be. To act as a person you can be proud of.
I can promise you that your wife is not hearing a thing you are saying right now. And to expect her to think and react rationally at this stage is like expecting to be able to nail jello to a wall. Aint gonna work.
So, go easy on yourself. Take it a step at a time. This is a real opportunity for you. I know you dont see that now, but it is.
