Well, whatever happens you have my support Pinhead. Our spouses are alike in a lot of ways - particularly the emotional unavailability, the distance... And I must say I'm almost with gucci on this.

I have to say looking back, that the changes my H made didn't really start happening until I told him clearly, consistently, and with resolve that I would leave unless the relationship began changing. I don't think he believed me the first few times I said it but the last time I said it to him, I could finally see the recognition in his eyes.

So if you've been down that road already (communicating honestly, clearly and with consistency that you'll leave unless it changes) and have had no results? Then, I can't blame you for giving yourself some distance from the marriage.

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.