Thought you might like to read a recent post from Gucci:
Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
Fascinating to observe that you both want someone who doesn't want you back.
And yet you fail to get it through your head that the very thing that will give you your best chance to turn this around is to do what works. The FACT is that what the OM did WORKED..
He dumped HER.. She still pines for him deep inside her heart. Her ego is bruised because he DUMPED her...
Women HATE to be dumped... (which is why the facts show that YOU should dump her too. She obviously responds better to men who can take or leave her.
Fascinating that you can't see or understand why what you keep doing doesn't work. Fascinating.
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...I am GAL more than ever and that one date with the 25 year old has opened my mind to dating more and all of a sudden there are women everywhere. As I said to WAW (yes on purpose) "I must be putting off single vibes now".
It seems that WAW is starting to feel that I am FINALLY moving on and since it's real now, she knows that too.
I am feeling the best I have in the last year and for the first time ever I am truly doubting if I actually want to save my marriage after all.
It's not that you doubt if you actually want to save your marriage, it's no longer the center of your universe. You're ok if it had worked out, you're ok if it doesn't, life is still good regardless of the outcome, you're no longer attached to the outcome. You're no longer desperate, needy or clingy, you're confident. Huge difference in how you view life now. And you're realization that there are "women everywhere" and that you're putting out single vibes, that is is a confident attitude, it's an attitude of abundance and I'm very confident that your wife feels this now, feels that you are letting go of her because you finally realize that there are millions of women out there and you are confident enough to get any one of them, that you won't let one woman destroy your life because she was indecisive and didn't feel like being married anymore.
That is an attractive attitude, you finally DECIDED to move on.
Wife you don't want me, that's ok, I respect your decision, I'm finding out that I have a ton of choices and the possibilities are limitless. Think of the attitude, it's not cocky or arrogant, it's confident, it's relaxed, it's not limiting, it's happy, it's great, it's full of life, it shows ambition and leadership ability on your part, it's decisive, it's assertive, it's having a plan for your life - these are all things that make you very attractive.
You haven't shown your wife any of these qualities for who knows how long and now you are, and she's seeing them again for what seems like the first time and guess what, her reality is changing just like your reality is. She was making the decisions before, calling the shots, and you felt powerless, couldn't do anything to change her mind, couldn't do anything, to make her see things differently because you were trying to change her mind about you. That never works, how can you forcefully change someone else without them resenting you for it forever? You can't!
So what worked? You let go. You accepted her decision. You moved on. You finally woke up and realized that "hey this is not the end of my world! It's the beginning of new opportunities for me!" You can see better now, more clearly. You aren't limited, You have MANY options, you have an abundance attitude, before you were like "I'll never find another woman, I only want my wife" and she didn't want you at all, she told you so. Now you're like "There are so many women, they're everywhere, I'm single, there's 1000 of them, there is only ONE of ME!"
You "flipped the script", she didn't want you, it's her loss, now she actually sees that, you enabled her to feel this way because you accepted her decision and didn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
Took you long enough to get to this point (seriously), but I told you it would happen when you allowed yourself to make it happen.
Seriously bro, you made me happy reading your post today, today is a good day indeed.
