I'm sorry you are having a bad time and to be honest, I didnt think much of exH's email.. what does he think you'll think about it? At least he shows some guilt but to add "things are really going well".. great, thanks, did you really need that spelling out??? Presumably things were going well when you two got married. It might be partly shame. He may feel on some level the need to justify this new R by making it official after walking out on you so soon after the wedding. I would take it with a pinch of salt. Hard though hey.
As for the boyfriend.. as hard as it would be, I would advise you to definetly end it. Even if he isnt doing drugs now the fact he said that is a huge red flag, not just becuase he may take drugs, I mean its a red flag for the type of guy he is and what he has to offer you and how the R may progress. A couple of my exBFs did hard drugs before or with me (hid it from me) and they tended to be depressive, moody, unhappy guys. My Mum always said to me.. theres nothing worse than a difficult man. This guy sounds like a handful and a little immature. I think you deserve better hun.
Plus the lethargic lazing around and moaning and ranting about other peeps and his sitch in life. He doesnt sound like he has his sh1t together and he has a lot to learn.. and you already had one guy like that, you dont need another! Plus, he doesnt sound like the one, can you imagine spending the rest of your life with him?? Its healthy to have fun and some flings, but maybe leave him behind when you move on? xxx PS: Kat I'm sorry to hear that, it must be so hard, especially when there are kids involved.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
