INTERESTED IN MLC FOR LBS

[ericmsant2]

My mother had said some things to my daughter about my wife and my daughter took offence and I got very angry with my mother.

How much of what is going on does your mother know about? If you have vented to your mother – stop. Venting to her will only make matters worse.

In any case my wife called me at 520am Sunday morning and said calmly which was not her style in the past;how my mother was wrong. I agreed with my wife and told her that my mother and I got into a fight.

Honestly a simple “I understand you feel that way” would have been suffice. I understand that you agreed with your wife; however, the R between your mother and your wife is BETWEEN them. NOT You and them. Your W will need to understand that SHE is responsible for her action and the consequences of those actions. If your mother was upset, she has every right to be. What it looks like to me is that you were trying to fix this. You were trying to SHOW YOUR WIFE that you were on her side. Do you still think that anything YOU say will make a difference? So you tried to fix the R between your W and your mother and then she says……

She then went on to say again how happy she is with her new life etc.

So you bailed her out…she did not have to accept responsibility for her actions. If she dropped off your D and did not say Hi I would agree with your mother that thiat was rude. How long are YOU going to be there to fix everything for her Bobby? How long? Ya know ya cannot fix her MLC.

I should point out that her new apartment was a wreck when I walked in on Friday.

I hate to say BUT why DO YOU care? If she is happy in her new apartment – well good for her. What is Bobby going to do to make Bobby really happy?

In any case she went on to tell me that she was happy not to be around me and finally she blamed me for her living in the apartment.

They will blame you for everything buddy. Everything. I actually am waiting for my W to start blaming me for global warmning. Question is….DO YOU BELIEVE IT?

I told her she moved out on her own and it was her choice not mine.

Good response.

I also said to her at some point she needs to look in the mirror and realize she cannot blame me because she has been out of the house for one month now. I told her that her dad and sister and son were concerned about her and the fact that she does not communicate with them. I then said to her to google the term midlife crisis and avoidance personality and I hung up on her.

<insert picture of Bobby jumping up and down saying…”look…here is the fix…look here is the fix”>
Bobby – as trapt pointed out she is not ready to hear this. Let me ask YOU a question…….when she had complaints about you (when things were good between the two of you)…did you always listen? Did you listen and watch her….did you realize that she was pulling away? Why? Look at that Bobby and stop looking at her!

I got a call last night times 2 how the printer was not working and how she needed me to fix it.

Another case of Bobby fixing….another case…. And then….

It was 1030 at night. I was not going to go but took the high road because she was stressed. I know many would tell me not to enable her.

High road MY AS*! Bobby you can continue to lie to YOURSELF….or YOU can stand up and ACCEPT where YOU are in YOUR life. You keep trying to fix thing. You keep trying to control this. You keep trying to be nice to your wife EVEN when YOU don’t want to be….because You still feel that something YOU do can change this. Sorry Bobby…I could go on and on and make you feel better…that’s not why I am here. I am here Bobby to HELP YOU! So as Trapt said…..

Change has to start with you Bobby.

Bobby do you UNDERSTAND this ^^^^^? If so, what changes DO YOU want to make for YOU?

I am still on this bumpy road and will work on me.

Good Bobby. Maybe instead of trying to fix everyone else…maybe you can start really fixing YOU.

Do you know where to start?

Do you believe you need to be fixed?

Do you know what you want YOUR life to look like?

Do you know what YOU want in your life?

Have you accomplished all of your dreams?


You can’t fix her bobby…..Fix you first and then…maybe…just maybe…she will come crawling back to you….a new woman…

Cool thing….you fix you and YOU my friend, will be a new MAN!

God Bless,
Eric