It's so hard, CTH. You're first instinct is to turn to the person you have shared so much with and who you thought would stand by you for life. When she treats you like garbage at the side of the road, it still hurts...especially when you haven't done anything to deserve it. It's one thing if you screwed around on her or you were hostile and hurtful during the M but when you haven't done anything it's hard to fathom and still hurts. That's the gift of divorce, it just keeps on giving! I think some spouses have to do it this way to appease their guilt, they shut you out while others are there for you as a means of assauging their guilt. Why my wife is doing it, who knows. I'm not going to speculate, all I know is that it's a time when I needed somebody to step up and she did. She's extremely busy with work, as always, so it is a kind gesture to say she'd put it aside for me. She didn't have to. Does it mean anything as far as us? No. A few weeks ago when she had a procedure done she didn't ask me to take her, I assumed her "friend" would but I did pick up our D that evening because she told me she wasn't supposed to drive for the rest of the day. I'm thinking of starting a new GAL activity, Coloscopy Club. We can have sightseeing trips to different clinics and discuss explosive topics like "Passing gas: What's all the stink about?" It'll be great fun and educational too!
