Blindsided

[gutwrenching]

BLGP -
I think you are taking the right approach for now, cause from what you write, it is hard to tell what is going on. So, focus on doing what works...doing whatever it is that drives interest in you. And with that he will hopefully see the changes and maybe one day let the wall down.

There will be pullbacks...be prepared...and it will suck when he pulls back.

The wink means nothing in reference to possible OW. Think about it, if the two of them are involved and keeping it hidden and wanting to keep it hidden to you, then the wink would be to throw you off. Yes, a spouse in an A will plot to do things to throw you off their trail...so just keep an eye out for everything.