Abusive spouse accuses "WAW" as "the" problem

[freespirit]

As an abuser as weird as this may sound I wasn't aware that I was being abusive and manipulative verbally. I thought I was ok and normal. An abusive partner doesn't see their behaviors as problematic and typically out in public abusers are really well behaved around others. Its only around you, the object of their affection their "teddy bear" do they exercise their control. You have to break that connection.
Pray for my wife Elizabeth. Joe

Hi Joe, praying for you AND Elizabeth...I guess you are also saying that an abuser; may even become more controlling to "prove their love" for us. I think also that accusing me of being a WAW, he is NOT taking responsibiltiy for his own behavior; deflecting from having to look at himself by focusing all the blame on me. I have not responded to his emails, he has accused me "of not communicating" while he plans to "move on" with giving NO thought to wanting to "sit down and talk about it"...he has NOT offered reconciliation or any plan of correcting his behavior and "making a home" for us. He is too busy "raising his daughter" almost 20, if you ask me, SHE is his teddy and the moment she wants to move out and get away from him, he will want to come back to me. That is NOT acceptable to me. I have walked away and I will stay away as long as I am NOT convinced with overwhelming proof (and I have criteria for myself) of his recovery from being a verbal, emotional and spiritual abuser.