I am starting the protection phase as has been advised me countless times on my other thread. Then why I am I more afraid than ever?
- lawyer files and injunction tomorrow so that custody remains the same until a hearing. ...H has been bullying and pressuring to take S6 to his house more often, have gf there with them, etc. I do not want this, never have. My state prefers 50/50 physical custody and this is where our legal separation is set at. But H and I have never followed this to the letter, H only comes over two - three nights per week to put S down to bed and takes him one overnight. He's been verbally and emotionally abusive and is taking prescription meds illegally. For this, and because of S6's age, I want to protect him and keep him in a stable and safe home.
I do not, have not ever wanted a war. But trying to work it out with an abusive bully has made me a doormat, not to mention killed my soul. So I have decided to fight in court. For boundaries sake, we are also filing motions for: -parenting classes -drug testing -alerting the FAA that he is flying on presciption meds that they don't allow -anger management classes and the big one will be full custody for me based on his abusiveness.
---because of OW, verbal and emotional abuse, etc...going complete NC is my goal - but may take time to sort out the mediary for child exchanges. Besides that, I will not ... - talk to him on the phone - talk to him in person, especially alone - spend "family time" with the three of us. - take him off the bank account
I may ultimately file for D as well. This M prob aint going to happen, so I am taking charge of it happening in my way on my time line. Also, if there is going to be any hope of a M, he needs boundaries and consequences. He laughs at me, but he won't laugh at the court.
PLease keep me in your prayers and/or drop me any words of support - as he will be notified tomorrow and served thursday.
I am TERRIFIED of his anger. So, I will have my parents act as intermediary for child exchange this week.
