IMO, with Doc, thie risk of an EA arising is highly unlikely. I know I certainly wouldn't put my M at risk for such a thing.
AH heck Saffie I thought we had a future togeather.....I was all ready to swim across "the pond"
In reality I look at my friends here like my big brothers and sisters....
Ot thanks for your concerns and opinions. I like all of the diversity here. I take a little of what you say... a little of what Saffie says... A little of Mr. Bond’s advice ... ECT... and come to my own conclusion... MOST of the time when I E-mail MEN AND WOMEN that I have come to know here...it is more venting than asking or telling “a secret”. I have come a long way. My confidence in myself has grown allot. BTW I made the honor roll and received a letter from the assistant president of the college for my 100% attendance…. My Marriage like many became boring...we took each other for granted. But as two individuals human beings...we had different ways of coping with it. Me I just figure my unhappiness was my cross to bear. My wife in her unhappiness...fueled by her low self esteem, menopause….tried to go back to a time when she thought she was happy. I think if she really wanted to leave she would have. I think if I really didn’t love her I would have thrown her out. Right now we both still have issues to deal with. And again we are dealing with them differently. Me I have no problem seeking help. But my wife does not want to be dependent on anybody. That is also part of her issue being out of work for so long…she is dependent on me…
BUT…. We have come a long way. The wedding the other night was Fantastic…the car ride there (without son) was great. I have really learned to listen to my wife and take interest in what she has to say… once in a while even if I already know about something she is about to tell me.. I let her talk...I do not interrupt her...sometimes I even act surprised when she tells me things I already knew. Why? I am not deceiving her... I am just getting her comfortable talking to me. At the wedding…. It took a little while but I did finely get her out on the dance floor...the wedding was for a young couple and young people were the ones mostly dancing...but when another “older” couple went out wife decided it was ok for us to. You see... again wife’s confidence / self esteem is so engraved she would deprive herself of a pleasure because she thought “she was too old” BTW her b-day is this Thursday... (57)…she already bought herself a present and said she does not want anything from me. I am still going to get her a card and some flowers though and told her at least we had to go out to dinner... she agreed. But getting back to the wedding... we stayed until it was over... another first… and when we got home…..without going into details let’s just say… doc’s drought is over…. We also had another first yesterday… W made a great dinner and after we cleaned off the table she looked at the dishes and jokingly said... “Where is the maid?”... I told her I would rinse the dishes off and put them on the counter for her...she does not like the way I load the dishwasher... at first (as usual) she said “ No I’ll do them”… but thought for a moment and then said…”No I am going to let you do them” So you see she is starting to “accept help”…..after the dishes were done…. I turned to her to give her my usual little kiss and SHE turned and put her arms around me. Not her usual thing to do… So wife is coming along pretty good. NOW doc just needs keep working on himself. Yes my confidence is up. But I am only human... and a male at that…. I am only 52 Yo but do not feel or act any different than I did when I was 25...with the same interest and drives….
Got ta go... W stopped at cold stone creamery and picked up some Ice cream for herself, son…. AND ME
Bye Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
