Hey Barb It makes me sad to read about B and A and how they still have so many unresloved issues w/ their dad, it is good though that they have you to talk to about this! I remember a friend of mine going thru a D same time as me, her S was only 6, and she said, I was so lucky that Ry was 17 when ex left , I thought lucky?? 17 is hard enough! its tough at any age! I understood what she meant --that he gets it, but lucky? no.
Its always been a wonder to me , hearing about how our children dealt with our exs' leaving, some to this day do not speak to their fathers, some have strained R, mine is up and down,very up and down- they've vacationed together, ( after ex left his gf!) because he finally had time for Ry, yet Ry feels his dad has abandonded him again by moving across the country, even tho hes an adult, he still feels that way, but yet they do have a R, Ry told me, he loves his dad but the respect is not what it should be, not like a son should have for his father, that made me sad, even tho ex deserves it, Ry dosnt.
I do hope that B does find a way to deal with this.. like What said, its hurting B every bit as much as Chuck , sad but true I do also thing, maybe?? its harder for sons, daughters from what I've seen seem to forgive their dads a bit easier, not sure , but from the situations I've seen.
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