Hey....if you need a set of CFM pumps let me know. I borrowed Grit's the other day. LOL.
Seriously though, I think that Seeking and GAG are spot on (as is Lance)...stick to your guns BUT remember this is NOT about winning. How you deal with your H will determine if in the future you have a chance at reconciliation. So, you will need to walk a fine line between wanting HIM to PAY for HIS actions and doing what is truly right and just.
As for a meeting at a lawyers office - no way. You were right to pass on that one.
Also, be careful NOT to commit to ANYTHING in your meeting with your H. I would start the conversation by saying that you are there to listen to WHAT HE has to say/offer. Let him offer what he feels comfortable with and then YOU can decide if that works for you. Listen does a few things...give him the impression that he is in charge 2) allows you to see what he is thinking about and 3) helps validate in to some extent. If you do not agree with something do not argue a simple "I'll think about it" will work. He may try to push you (and hell if your a size 4 he may try and make a move on ya) - do not as much as you want to engage him. Do not make this a difficult exchange. If he get's really pushy you may just want to say "you know I don't feel comfortable and so I'm going to leave". As much as you may want to say F*ck you...don't. Show HIM the Punkin that you have become.
Good luck....size 4
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
