Need advice on interacting with WAH

[AntoniaB]

Yeah I know, I thought that after I read what I typed above. Ok so damage control. What do I do? My instinct after he left was to email him and say "get these things out of here or I'm throwing them out." But is that counterproductive? Should I keep his stuff in the cabinets until he ever decides to move?

What message does that send? I never want to send the message that I think this affair or divorce is ok.

And somehow if he thinks I'm totally over him, to the point where I can have his crap here and it no longer bothers me, or his eye rolls don't bother me, that will make him think I'm the better choice? I guess I get stuck on that point.