Need advice on interacting with WAH

[AntoniaB]

I asked him about some things that he STILL had in the house. Video games, systems, albums, things that I cannot just put in the attic because they need to be in climate controlled areas. I said "when are you taking these things already?" And he just says "I don't know, whenever I get an apt., but that might not be till next year." (this would be WELL after we are divorced). And so I said, "look, this is bothering me. I don't want this stuff here. It reminds me of you. I want it gone." And he says "well you just gave me stuff from THIS house to take to where I'm living, what's the difference?" And I said "because the stuff I gave you is YOURS. This stuff you're leaving behind is ALSO yours. I want it gone." So he says "well it's not in view, it's all in cabinets, behind things." And I said "that doesn't matter, I don't like that you expect me to keep your things till you figure out what you're doing." And then he ROLLS HIS EYES.

Sighs, and rolls his eyes. Like I am "horribly inconveniencing" him with these trivial matters, or like I'm overreacting. Well jeez, he can take things from our life together and not react because I didn't hurt him. I didnt do anythinig wrong. But he hurt me badly, and his presence is still in this house!

So at that point I said "you are one callous MFer." "Good bye." and I turned around and didn't look back. He got up and left.

NOW my question is this. In MWD's book there is all this stuff about trying to get the WAH to realize you are OVER him, that you don't need him and he isn't hurting you, that you have your own life and you're happy. So if I go with that school of thought, then I just let this experience go, knowing that for all the hour he was here but for the last moment at the end, he saw me as very happy and having my own life.

But then I think, am I supposed to tell him that he MUST get this stuff out? Like if I tell him "take it out or I'm throwing it out", does that send the message that he did get to me, that I"m not "better" and moved on, that I'm not happy, because I am in effect saying he can still hurt me?

I don't know what to do. Do I let this go or do I tell him get the stuff out or I'm throwing it out?