You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[ClingingToHope]

I was pretty addicted to these boards. I missed everyone. I'll be brief to catch up.

Went to big surprise birthday party by myself and had a very, very good time. The only thing is I wished I'd stayed longer. There were 300 people there and it was clearing out. I thought the birthday boy wanted to be with his family and I said I was leaving.

He said, "you should stay all night. You're a single guy."

I should have.

During the weekend STBXW and I exchanged emails on the parent-teacher conferences (I've asked for separate ones). She's also pushing for a weekly scheduled phone call to talk about the girls. I wished the DB board had been up and running to get your input.

Here's her last email:

"I am still confused on the conferances. If we are not on the same page and do not hear the same message then how are we to help the girls together with school? Is it me that you hate or do you have things to ask that you can't ask while I am there. And if so these questions that you have are probably the same ones I have. This is joint custody not sole custody and if we can't work together on at least the main topics of the girls then how are they going to not become confused or a product of the divorce.

The intent of the weekly calls is to keep us conected on what is going on in the girls lives. Email and texting leaves it open to intrepretation."

I waited a few hours to respond. Here's my response.

"I did not feel comfortable at the conferences last year so this year I asked for my own.

Email is clearer and to the point and we can keep a copy of it so there is no miscommunication.

I see the girls 12 days out of 14 during the school year. I don't feel disconnected. I don't see the need for weekly phone calls. Email works for me."

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