DB is back. I had given up ever reading on here again. I'm glad. Although I have moved on - it still helps to be able to come back here to share certain thoughts and dilemmas.
I totally agree with you about the "forgiving is for them" but even though I finally got there myself (well, for the most part), I can honestly say I'm not totally sure HOW I got there. I guess time, a determination to get past it and his continuing bad behaviour were what did it for me. But then - I CAN let him go. I CAN stay away from him as we do not co-parent (we never really did). But the kids want SOME R with him.
I think it might be best to remind them that what he wants (them coming for dinner and accepting maggot) is HIS ideal but it is still up to them whether they're ok with that or not. Brandon feels that HE wants to be in the driver's seat - not his father. And I guess that is his call.
