Do I let her know I'm having doubts about what I want? About us working out?
Yes.
When let her know you agree with her feelings and let her know that you agree that this marriage isn't working for you either. She is going to look at you like you have antlers sprouting out of your head. Her thinking will change.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Alright, going to find or make an opening either tonight or during MC tomorrow to do this. I think that I'd like to put the joint counseling on hold for awhile, til I feel like we're both all in.