Well coach, card idea was mine. The c told me if i wasnt ready for a divorce to find a way to get my w to read them. Since I started this, there has been a major development. Friday night I got a txt from my w saying thank you for the cards. She knew i was going out for a guys night with her brother and friends and she told me to take care of him. I said ur welcome, I will and if he gets out of hand she will see it all on facebook. Left it at that. Well the kids gave her the cards on sat. and sun. and i drove to her place on monday morning. I didnt know but she watched me walk to her car, open the door place the card and a little pink football from my daughter on her seat. About 2 hours later i got a txt "i just did the smartest thing in my life or maybe the stupidest". I asked her what she did. This is her response to me.
"after watching you walk down OM driveway, I realized how much I love you. How much you mean to me and just how much I miss you. I packed all my belongings in my car, drove to work and quit. I have no intentions of speaking to OM or seeing him again. I left him a note telling him that I value my marriage and my family too much and this was all a big mistake. I am taking a chance that you realize that by quiting my job you know how serious I am about this and you are still willing to give me a chance to come back home. I understand if you dont want to, but I do love you and I do want to make this work, no matter what."
Needless to say, I was kind of speachless. I told her to meet me for coffee and I left work. She cried the entire time I was with her. I told her it would be a hard battle, but one that i was willing to fight. I needed the rest of the week to compose my thoughts and see what I wanted to do. She has a place to stay while we work through this. I have committed nothing, but I did tell her she needed a job as I wasnt paying her bills.
So now wwe are in a holding pattern until Saturday. I just need to allow the shock of this to wear off a little so I dont make emotional decisions and give her the control over me and the situation.
So, what does everyone think of this development? kinda took me for a surprise.
