Good…Now I will also caution you to be gentle on yourself. You will make mistakes buddy – we all do. The key is how YOU deal with them.
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I'm acting from a place of anger. I see what you are trying to get through to me.
So beside the fact that YOUR wife is an alien right now…why are YOU angry? I mean really WHY ARE YOU angry? Psst….don’t give me a list of all of the chit your wife has done either.
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I also know now, clearly, my path tomorrow and it's the right thing to do.
What is the right thing Faith? Is the right thing to lay down and allow her to dictate what she wants? Is the right thing to punish her for her actions? What really is the right thing?
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please note only one part pissed me off.
You didn’t answer my earlier question…better to be pissed on or pissed off? Just kidding
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You told me how you see it and probably her too.
Faith, you have to understand that YOUR W…knows YOU and therefore can see through any bullchit, can see the anger, can see when you are being vindictive, knows your buttons, knows how to piss you off….Accept it. So what are you to do? Ah….that is the question right? IMO – sit back, study yourself, think about where you went wrong and the things that YOU need to change and then change them. Not to get her back dude – right now she’s gone (sorry to say). The changes that you want to make must really be FOR YOU. Must be changes that YOU want to make so that….
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Would I want to be married to me right now? No
….the answer to this ^^^^ questions is YES. Or as I would say F*ck yea!
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The control or vindictiveness is there. I realize my interactions are harsh. I get it.
All normal dude. Now that you know that your interactions are HARSH, that you are being vindictive….NOW my friend comes the hard work. The real hard work. Do you have a mirror in your house? Stand in front of it…when no one is around and ask YOURSELF what do YOU see. Not for me, not for your W…for YOU!
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I'm very clear on my boundaries, however, based on the info today.(What a day) My boundaries even come from anger.
Boundaries are important and I believe most of Time’s post to your was spot on. Question I want you to think about is this….ARE you really ready to set the boundary? Can you really live with the consequence of the boundary that you set? Before you answer…look in the mirror dude…look in the mirror…The answer is not for me it is for you.
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I'm not done being angry, but I see exactly how it's controlling me and it's feeding me thinking about "why" she is doing everything. I need to stop, be Me for Me and nothing else matters.
BINGO…..he is the fun part….figuring out who “me” really is…falling in love with “me”…yeah that when it get really cool…then guess what happens…
The anger…..
Starts to go away….
The fear….
Starts to go away…
The realization comes……
That Faith….it is all about YOU!
So are you ready to start the hard work?
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
