She told me she was done. No more intimacy, physical touch. Mevac is modeled somewhat after Patricia Evans verbal abuse. The key is to make it clear that you will no longer take this. The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond by Patricia Evans is a great read. It may be difficult because every emotion it will bring to the surface but you will be able to put a plan in place.
As an abuser as weird as this may sound I wasn't aware that I was being abusive and manipulative verbally. I thought I was ok and normal. An abusive partner doesn't see their behaviors as problematic and typically out in public abusers are really well behaved around others. Its only around you, the object of their affection their "teddy bear" do they exercise their control. You have to break that connection.
On verbal abusers there are 30,000 survivors. On Mevac there are around 30 Recovering abusers. You can hope but this is about saving you. Your husband will need to make the decision on his own.
I wasn't happy I knew it. I wanted something better.
God Bless.
Pray for my wife Elizabeth.
Joe
H:37 W:34 D11,S8,S6 Together 19 years M:10 Bomb:4/09
