Gosh, just had a couple of minutes to check some of your situation Pinhead, and you seem to be in a similar situation to me-ready for separation/ready for new marriage with same spouse.Or, at least, ready to work on a new marriage, if that happens.

I certainly was bored with my H too. Maybe I still could be. He walked away first. And during the last few years of our marriage my escape was genealogy. Looking back I don`t like much of what I was back then either.

Will read some more of your thread later.