You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[ClingingToHope]

Put a little too much into tonight. It was the last night the girls are on the health club membership. It was an extra $40 a month to have them on there and they haven't gone since early August. So we went, even though there was homework to be done.

They climbed the rock wall for a half hour while I lifted. D8 went to the play area for 40 minutes and D11 worked out with me -- the weight machines, running machines, the works. She was tired and barely made it through her homework.

Got them off to sleep with just a minor episode from D8.

Basically, it costs $10 per person for guests. So if they go with me once a month, I save $20. If they go twice, I'm even. Any more than twice and I'm losing. If they don't go at all, I come out ahead. I need to get there more myself. I peaked in at a body pump class. One guy, 12 women. I like those odds.

After girls went to sleep I checked email. STBXW said Monday her email wasn't working. Well, she sent me one tonight.

It talked about this morning's school meeting, the days off next week, D11's theater auditions, parent teacher conferences and a couple of other things. It had no mention of the text about picking up things in late October.

I responded and it wasn't a very helpful message. I told her I asked for separate conferences, I am not going to put in the 20 hours of parent time for the theater troupe (I can't I have to work to make money, but she doesn't need to know that). She wanted to set a time to talk about the morning school meeting. I didn't commit to that. I just asked what was it that they said about the medicine and D8's focus. (Just deal with it through email. Who needs a conversation at this point? Either D8 goes back on medicine or she doesn't.)

At the end of the email, I said I was wrong about the move-in dates. I'm moving in to the house Oct. 23 and I'll be by Oct. 22 to pick up the four things I mentioned. Plus, I added that my sister called to tell me STBXW has been "holding" another ring of my mom's for her -- one my dad gave her when he was trying to save the marriage. It has an emerald and diamonds around it.

I didn't know STBXW had that one. So I asked for that too.

Truthfully, it'll probably p*ss her off. I'm not giving ground on anything. I spent 2009 k*ss*ng her *ss in hopes of saving the M. Now, it's beyond repair and I'm trying to set my boundaries and then, later, perhaps soften them.