I'm now healing and moving forward

[Truegritter]

her comments it’s clear that she still feels that she did all that she could do to try and save the M.

This is key because I think the rest to come after was YOU trying to convince her YOU did all YOU could.

We never really stop DBing because it is a good guide for life IMO.

Actions not words...

“did you not think it was over when I said it was? Did you not believe me”

This is the biggest thing I see Eric. In her mind all this is you controlling everything not listening to her. Not hearing her.

So when you said all those things to her about you admitting your faults etc.

It was more of you not listening. The only way she got your attention was to file the D.

You want more proof?

“I warned you that I would bury my love for you if you continued on going out after work to “network” and continue one”

This is about power and punishment Eric. That is what I see.

Don't waste one wisp of your breath arguing what kind of man you've become or regrets you have.

like this

…my response….”no I did – what I was trying to do was give you the space you needed to figure your own chit out. I also took that time to work on me and it was the best thing I ever did.

She is not ready to see it.

I know you have done this work man. I know what kind of man you are now

and

“I would warn you not to do some of the stupid things you did – like go off road in a new jeep – ya did anyway” (FTR, my response was that was stupidity on my part)

and

“I lost myself in the M…all I did was take care of you”

She is blaming you. Not taking any responsibility.

And she won't until she's ready...

This not all your fault Eric. People live and grow. People make mistakes.

You have attoned for yours. You now how I know?

Because you are still here. You are not making those mistakes. You are good father. A good husband.

A good man. You are not that guy anymore and it doesn't matter that she doesn't see it.

It only matters that you know it.

And be good to yourself you deserve it.