New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Thanks Coach and Michelle. I really appreciate the support. I have to tell you that I did call the DB phone coach a few weeks ago, just to see what her take was on all this.

On one hand I've been reading posts suggesting me to detach. On the other hand, the DB coach said I needed to stop detaching and increase contact, showcase the new me, be a friend, contact more often. she said I've been detaching for too long, just calling once a week, or plain stopping all calls altogether.

So the DB coach said I needed to do a 180 and increase contacts, go see the kids, call wife, not be confrontational, etc.

Hence the confusion I feel I'm in.

JR. BTW, My name is Joel. Thought I may as well throw that in.

Thanks Michelle and Coach.