PEI - Very quickly, if you'll read my quote above from an earlier post last week...you'll find that I DID make the changes for MYSELF. Not for my H. I made the changes for me, to be a better person and mother.
I see you saying that, but then I also see you saying ....
Originally Posted By: JenniferA
Now, here we are...again...today, my self confidence is in the freakin toilet. I wonder why am I not good enough.
His crisis ... or whatever you want to call this ... is about HIM, not you. It has nothing to do with how worthy you are, nothing to do with whether or not you are a "good wife", etc ...
Have you done any reading on male depression? I'm not a big believer in over doing the "studying" when it comes to our sitchs (I'd rather see someone spend the time digging deep into themselves) but a certain amount of it does breed compassion and understanding. Once you achieve those you are in a much better place to make choices.
Look forward to hearing more.... PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
