Not sure why H took OW to visit with the relatives.
Originally Posted By: cas
I'm not sure either GAG but possibilities are 1. Hadn't seen her for a while and was an opportunity to keep in touch 2. Didn't want to go to dinner alone with just one other couple 3. Wanted to show B and SIL they were still together-pride. I have previously commented that ow seemed to be a 'convenience.' Nothing has changed my mind, over the last three months.
When I re-read this I thought it seemed like I was saying ow was virtually non-existent. I need to be clearer. She and H seem to see each other at different times. There doesn't seem to be any real consistency and he has said himself that living with her is not an option. It appears that she fits into his schedule.
This is the part that makes me feel uncomfortable....she fits in with him and so do I. This is the part where I get anxious and think he should make a choice.
Last night D16 shared her observations about H (doesn't give an opinion too often). She noticed the changes over the past three months. I commented on me giving him a choice and D said that would make him cranky again. She's right, of course.
There are MLC stages and we've had discussions about LBS stages and here I am in one right now. Let him cake eat/stop him from cake eating. Ugh. For all my reading there's no right answer. There's strong advocates for both sides. I have Christmas/new year in my head and I guess for now while things keep improving I'll keep at it until then. I refuse to be still at this limbo in 2011!!
I need to hear from those who successfully outlasted the ow.
