New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

Well...at this point your options are to continue on in limbo and hope things turn around. Or to take action.

It's radical in that it is a readjustment of your mindset. From waiting to acting.

How many people in the last year have told you that she will keep in limbo, that she is cake eating? I know I have, and I've heard others say it too.

She has no reason to divorce you. She gets your military retirement, she has medical benefits, she's going to school and you are paying for her books, she's living with her parents (if I remember correctly) so she has help with the children and minimal expenditures. Why would she give that up?

What do you have right now?

You are M on paper.

What would D change? It would formalize child support, formalize how much of your retirement she gets.

That's it.

It's not that radical.

You have to let her go so that she can make the choice to come back or not.