I don't give this advice to everyone, but if you try it you should understand the importance in it.
Find yourself a knapsack, a light quilt, a knife, a flashlight, rope, and maybe one of those contractor garbage bags and a blue tarp. Buy some granola bars and maybe a can or two of pork and beans.
Take a vacation day on October 8th. Tell your wife she needs to have your son Thursday night through Tuesday. Find the nearest Forest or State Park near your house and drive there Thursday night. With the minimal amount of things you think you require for your survival, start walking into the woods Friday morning and walk for 2 days then turn around. Drive home and reflect on what you saw and taught about.
Continue doing this once a month, every couple weeks, minimizing and perfecting your gear. Walking farther and farther. At first you will realize you take to much. Things you think that you need are really wants and are truly not necessary. Sometimes you may take to little and you'll end up sleeping in a hole or under a log in the rain. In time you will realize how independent you really are. How you really can rely on yourself for emotional and physical strength.
I don't give this advice to everyone, but if you try it you should understand the importance in it.
Find yourself a knapsack, a light quilt, a knife, a flashlight, rope, and maybe one of those contractor garbage bags and a blue tarp. Buy some granola bars and maybe a can or two of pork and beans.
Take a vacation day on October 8th. Tell your wife she needs to have your son Thursday night through Tuesday. Find the nearest Forest or State Park near your house and drive there Thursday night. With the minimal amount of things you think you require for your survival, start walking into the woods Friday morning and walk for 2 days then turn around. Drive home and reflect on what you saw and taught about.
Continue doing this once a month, every couple weeks, minimizing and perfecting your gear. Walking farther and farther. At first you will realize you take to much. Things you think that you need are really wants and are truly not necessary. Sometimes you may take to little and you'll end up sleeping in a hole or under a log in the rain. In time you will realize how independent you really are. How you really can rely on yourself for emotional and physical strength.
Don't get hurt.
You know what Steve? I'm really going to do that. I grew up in the woods hunting, tracking and fishing for days at a time with my Dad. I remember the solitude and how peaceful it was. I will do this within 2 weeks. New GAL goal for me.
Plus, Bear Grylls is a badass.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
I'd probably watch. Cuz if she isn't the hottest woman in the world, she sure knows how to work John.
I had a good friend growing up who was dating a woman of questionable character. And whenever we were all out together and he'd leave to hit the john, she whistle "Under my thumb..."
I have a meeting with my counselor today at 4:00pm. I am waiting until then to do anything drastic.
You don't need to do anything drastic at all. Are you listening to anyone here? Helllloooo, John, you there? Listen up buddy, we're all trying to talk to you here.
You called her, you tested by saying ILY, you drove by her house when she didn't say it back . . . Do you realize what kind of stalker vibe you're giving off? I would've freaked out on you too. You need to start looking at this from your W's perspective. She's been viewing this as over for some time. You, however, you've just woken up comparatively. So to her you're just the guy who can't get it through his head and you're starting to get creepy about it. Maybe she lied to you because she was scared you'd show up where ever she was. Maybe she was with a OM. Who knows, who cares? Fact is, in her mind this is over, she's moving on. You're clinging to her and she knows it. She knows she can return at any time and find that good old familiar comfort with you. She knows it will always be there because you will not move on. So she uses that to her advantage.
Like everyone else has said, it's time to move on John. Quit worrying about her, who she's with, where she's at. I understand it's hard, but it's the only way YOU are going to come out of this intact in any way. Move on.
Me: 24 H: 26 2 SS: 7 & 5; D: 3 H filed D papers: 8/2/10 OW discovered: 08/10 D papers counter-filed: 10/2/10 There is no method to my madness
She then FINALLY broke. She admitted she lied. She said that she told me she was in bed because I wasn't supposed to call her and she didn't want to talk to me, so it was just easier to lie to me. She was at the shop at the University working on our son's halloween costume. It could be a legit story. I saw the halloween costume in the living room when I walked in, it had definitely been sawed on with machines and stuff. Looked different since this last weekend.
20 something wife, who has ...advertised...herself on chatroulette is now handmaking a Halloween costume for her son in September. Suddenly she is Mother of the Year. And you are wondering if maybe this is ...legit.
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She reiterated about 1000 times that she wasn't with anyone. I asked a couple of times too. She kept saying it over and over about all she had time for was work/school/son and she was trying to make herself a better person, and that she wasn't doing anything with anyone at all.
Me thinks the lady doth protest too much.
John. Really.
Your are married to a girl.
Time to be a man.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
I go away for a while, go out of town, take a break. Is this a time capsule? why am i drawn to read whats going on with this thread, its like three's company different story every episode, but the same plot, same BS.
John, I think you need some more outside help other than these boards, since you wont detach and let go.
You called her, you tested by saying ILY, you drove by her house when she didn't say it back . . . Do you realize what kind of stalker vibe you're giving off? I would've freaked out on you too.
Fact is, in her mind this is over, she's moving on. You're clinging to her and she knows it. She knows she can return at any time and find that good old familiar comfort with you. She knows it will always be there because you will not move on. So she uses that to her advantage.
...over and over again.
The longer you cling, the worse off you will be. And that's a fact.
