So I have to either leave or get her to leave. Sigh... back to where I was a month ago.
No that is not the first step.
1- Get rid of negative feelings.
How do you change feelings?
Change her thinking.
Yep, how do you do that?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.