You are not in piecing. Your wife isn't all in. Common mistake. If you do piecing right you will go thru a "second honeymoon" stage.
Quote:
I am the WAS right now.
Then let your actions show her.
Four stages I've read here quoted from DB coaches:
- get rid of negative feelings
- become friends again
- rekindle the romance
- re-commit to the marriage
I knew this was coming; though I didn't want to admit it was true. And I have those four stages printed out and on my cubicle wall. We're both still stuck at the first phase, and you can't skip a step!
So I have to either leave or get her to leave. Or make her think I'm done. Sigh... back to where I was a month ago.
