I've been thinking about telling my W that since we are just living like roomates that we will start splitting the monthly bills as roomates would. Thoughts?
Most of the time when W seems to be shutting me out I would say something as she passed through the room to kind of break the ice. And I know in DBing you change whatever wasn't working. So yesterday evening when W passed by I said nothing, and she didn't either. But I'll see how that goes. Kinda like going dark but in the some house. It feels right though, after everything she put me through she can come to me.
I do think this is the end. W is so calm and reasoning, it sounds like this is truly how she feels. Says there is something missing and that it's better for both of us to move on.
You wrote this on 8/31 and then some people who have a lot of similarities said this is going to take a long time, be patient.
Listen to them. 3 weeks is not a long time. You sitich is complicated, from what I read, I do not believe your W is truly piecing. Almost sounds like she is checking a square to say see I tried, I came back, nothing changed when in fact she may still be in or wishing she was still in an EA. I don't know. You'll get better help over in newcomers.
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Thanks for the words of encouragement. As you know some days are tougher than others and you just need to vent out. Thanks for taking the time to help.
I find it strange how our relationship was improving and all at once it's like she hates me, like I just did something horrible. Anybody want to tempt an explaination?
Definetly tough to bite my tongue to not ask where she goes in the evening. She said last week that's her "me time". This week I know she stays away til I leave for work. Alot of MLC fits. Her just going and driving, her secrecy, her all about her, how everything in the past was bad and my fault.
