Sorry gutwrenching, didn't mean to be insensitive, of course you know how painful this is! I agree with both of you. I have been doing my best to be positive and show the positive changes not only in front of him but our mutual friends. I do not bad mouth him. I agree that this would not be beneficial. He truly is a wonderful person, but flawed just like me... this doesn't mean I don't fantasize about keying his precious car or taking a sledgehammer to it at times I have one tight-lipped friend that I can vent my frustrations to. She is also pro-marriage so I feel safe talking to her. Otherwise, I put on a brave face... Next month is going to be particularly challenging as I will be spending 3 weeks working in the same area as him. I have scaled back my running to every other day or so but will have to probably pick it back up to every day to get through it! Thanks for the advice, it is really comforting to get feedback.
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."