Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. Some here may think I haven't let my W chase me enough, but they don't see her every couple days like I do. They don't hear her complimenting me, asking for my advice, trying to pry info from me on my single life, wearing the perfume she knows I like, etc, etc. She treats me with respect (MOSTly), and admiration. She knows I have an active social life, she sees that I don't take her calls right away, don't answer her texts right away, and I'm not at her beckon call. She HAS been chasing me, for well over a year now. Between the severe damage of her A, plus the problems we had in our M, it's a long road to reconciliation. Given our history, in some ways I'm glad for her A, because it has prevented us from going too fast, and allowed us to truly heal and grow before we got to where we are. From what I understand about your sitch, you've grown considerably through all this too.
If my W and I do end up together, I'm confident our M is going to be great, and if we can't get there, we'll get divorced and life will go on.
