Maybe she didn't want to meet you in the park because she would have to be alone with you and that would feel like cheating on OM?
But it's ok to come to the House and be alone with me? Sorry, that doesn't make any sense to me. Not taking it out of context, as I get the point you made. Just had to comment on this part.
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This is not a game.
I'm not viewing this as a game and I'm not sure whether to be offended or not by that statement.
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If you want to use the dogs and hold it over her head just admit that is what's going on.
Where the F*ck does this come from? If you are going to comment on my post please READ it, ALL of it. I took a different approach to countless weekly texts from her about the dogs, instead of saying "No" AGAIN or NO RESPONSE and cutting her off, I gave her a fair option this time. Changed it up. If anything I quit using the dogs as leverage and tried to rise to be a better person about it. That exchange up above was me being fair. Her reaction, turned it into a test, and now? Well she doesn't want to see them that bad afterall. You tell me who's playing a f*cking game. Me or Her. Who is using the dogs to get to who? Sorry, but this statement pissed me off.
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YOU have to stop framing your life around what W thinks of you.
Whether she respects you or doesn't respect you.
Find your own respect.
I agree
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As far as the other stuff up there.
Protect yourself legally and every other way the best way you can.
If you want a divorce. If that is something you see yourself doing. Do it.
If you don't. If that is not what you meant when you took your vows....
well why would you let someone force you to compromise your values and beliefs?
They were my thoughts. Good and Bad. Cycling. I felt by delaying the divorce, there was LESS signs of being vindictive vs just giving in to the quick and ez.
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If you crumble from your honor and your truth you confirm all the doubt you have in yourself and every wrong idea you think your W has about you.
Figure out what you stand for and don't let ANYONE force, coerce, guilt, persuade, victimize,bully, or ball-bust you from your choice.
When you do that you will have your self respect back and it won't be a function of what your W has done, is doing or will do.
I have made my decision based on my integrity and my self respect. The part of me that I do want.
