[quote]just don't know about the whole Eckhart Tolle thing
Yah like I said - I'll agree that parts of it makes sense... Like this is good...
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
More importantly, he finally figured out you have to be tuned into the present a good bit of the time, or you will not have energy to deal with things like the future And spending a lot of time worrying about past regrets is just a good way to waste your life.
But the whole (interpreting here) 'you have to be a perfectly whole, spiritually centered person before you can ever be happy in a relationship or elsewhere' stuff is a little hard to take. Maybe I'm reading too much into it. I don't believe anyone's is that perfectly whole and completely self-reliant. EVERYBODY has baggage and no matter how hard we try there will always be remnants of it in our marriages.
I agree that we have to focus on the present and future primarily, and less on the past. I just think the premise can be kind of dangerous if taken too far... if we try to sweep the problems of our past under the rug instead of dealing with them and learning from them, they WILL come back and bite us in the keester. So I just think for me, finding the right balance is the key.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
And spending a lot of time worrying about past regrets is just a good way to waste your life. 
