My $0.02 worth. I don't know who if you have told anyone at. But I think that you should at least be open to telling people that ask. You don't have to give them all the details and you shouldn't bad mouth him. In my sitch, the more people I told, the more people were are on my side. W thinks I'm going around telling everyone about how terrible she is. In reality I say just the opposite, how great she is and how much I miss her, but that I'm holding up well.
It is subtle pressure. Some of this gets back to her, and I think the message usually is "I heard you two were getting a D, what happened?" And "he is holding up well". I think you telling other people in a positive way first keeps him from weaving his own reality as to why this is happening.
Just a though. Hang in there. It will get better. I'm feeling good now because I think I have a good chance at keeping my M. But no matter what I feel stronger and more capable now than even just a few weeks ago.
You are using this board and I think that is great. Lean on people here you'll get support. Good luck!
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
