How should I handle MLC direct lying?

[Truegritter]

If he asks me to do an activity I get rattled/mad

This is why to have a boundary of limited or no contact.

This

Mainly bc its obvious he's squeezing me in w 'something else'.

Assume you mean OW? Or his chosen MLC du jour?

Then you need to try to deal with these feeling because you can't control what he is feeling/doing and

So

You need to move past this. This is the MLC or whatever you want to call it. It is his choice and the boundary won't effect it.

It is expectation that his behavior will change because of the boundary.

A subtle difference between the two.

Boundaries are for your protection...

Not to teach moral lessons.