I think PEI has given you excellent advice.

I also think marriage is a give and take.
You both have "needs",
he wants you to take care of his "needs".
Is he ready to take care of your "needs"?

This can not be a one way street.
If it is, then he is still in the tunnel, in some stage.

I am confused at this point whether there is/was an OW or not.
My "guess" is that the OW is gone and that your are rebuilding your marriage.
I can not be positive by what is written on these boards.

No matter what, you will not go wrong with what PEI has said.

Remember that your old H is gone.
This is a new model, whether it is improved yet I can not say.

Rebuilding does not mean that the crisis is over.
It just means that he may not be running away.

Is his IC suggesting any MC yet?