I have come to the conclusion that I really don't understand and probably never will my wife's sexual responses. Sometimes she just wants to get aroused enough that sex will be pleasant for her and has seemingly absolutely no desire to orgasm and prefers it that way. Other times she really wants to go for the big O. I honestly think that foreplay is more important than intercourse and I kind of feel that way as well.
Our sex therapist told us that sex should be playful and we should try to interject laughter and humor in our love making.
Now you and your wife just need to figure out which parts of last night are repeatable and work toward repreating periodically.
There was a book my wife had me read entitled "Still Sexy after All these Years." It was based on thousands of interviews with women over 50 about their desire, sensuality and sexuality. Some parts were pretty depressing at to some older women's lack of libido, other parts were encouraging about how some older women in terrible situations found ways to keep desire, sensuality and sexuality as part of their lives. It might be an interesting read for you.
One of my fears was that if I was in an SSM before I retired was I effectively facing a life sentence of celbacy. Now I know that sex is part of my relationship with my wife and I know that she understands how important it is to our relationship.
Good luck to you.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
