I am not in counseling but would like to go. I do read alot of self help books which I know is not the same. I do believe I am still dependant on my H emotionally. I dont know how to stop it. I am that way with anyone though. I dont like confrontation and I hate for anyone to be unhappy with me or anything I do. That is just me.
I also do go and do alot without him. I dont nag, but I always feel bad leaving him out even if thats what he wants. Occasionally I do like to do things as a family with him. The kids alway want to know why daddy cant or wont go either.
As far as him being lazy....well, Im a people pleaser I guess. If someone asks me to do something, if Im able, I do it. I have never minded doing these things for my H. BUT I do not like it when he asks me to do something when he is laying around and I am clearly busy. That was the point I was trying to get through to him.
I do act as happy as possible whether Im around him or not. I like to be around positive people too...its very hard to be happy around him, but I try!
TOday...he is texting me. Said he is an a--hole. I asked was he telling me or asking me? Now how do I validate that? I asked him why did he think he was an ahole, he replyed just because he was. OK, only when he wants to be is what I said. He replyed "whatever".
If you keep thinking negative, you will become a negative person.
He did not use to be this way at all. I miss him.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
