So even if she texts me Good Morning, don't respond. Cuz she is, and I do feel like she's just testing to see if I'll respond... Testing the waters to see if I'll budge.
Don't you remember the "friend" discussion, she wanted to remain friends and you told her that it wasn't a good idea. Well she's seeing if you're sticking to your guns or if you going to back down from that idea.
Seriously bro, in reality, you can do WHATEVER you want. If you want to text her back 2 words: "good morning", do it, if you don't want to do it, don't do it. You're an adult, you can decide what YOU want to do. That's part of being an adult and part of being a man, doing what you want to do because you've decided that's what you want to do. All this indecisive crap will kill a person's brain after a while, should I? maybe not? but maybe I should? I'm not sure what I should do? BLAH, BLAH, BLAH
At some point we will need to sit down and discuss divorce agreements and things related to custody, etc.
No, you don't NEED to do that. That's what attorneys are for.
What worked in my situation was my W and I spoke about the custody. When she intially left we split them 50/50.
When we spoke 6 months later she tried to get M-F and give the weekends. I wouldn't budge, telling her I like the 50/50 and we should keep the same schedule.
I am OK with you talking to W about the kid's schedule as long as you can do it without emotion and with talking about anything else.
That's what worked for me.
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All this indecisive crap will kill a person's brain after a while, should I? maybe not? but maybe I should? I'm not sure what I should do? BLAH, BLAH, BLAH
Do what you want to do.
Definetely maybe respond.
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All this indecisive crap will kill a person's brain after a while, should I? maybe not? but maybe I should? I'm not sure what I should do? BLAH, BLAH, BLAH
Do what you want to do.
Definetely maybe respond.
LOL! Like I said he moonlights as a comedian when he's not at his coaching job.
So even if she texts me Good Morning, don't respond. Cuz she is, and I do feel like she's just testing to see if I'll respond... Testing the waters to see if I'll budge.
I admit I fell for this crap with my W. It will get you NOWHERE, fast.
In hindsight I wish I would have listened to the advice, but I did what I "felt" was right, instead of what I should have. I still screw up at times, but I'm learning.
You are doing so well already. It's hard at times and as the tests come it will become even harder. However, you have some Premium Power Posters on your thread and if you follow their advice, you can't go wrong.
Best thing I can tell you from what I have learned from here in the simplest form..."If you feel like you want to/have to/should do....Don't"
