Need some encouragement

[kissak]

I also told him that I would like for him to do more with me and the kids. He said that he just didnt want to do stuff sometimes and it was ok to go without him> I told him I didnt like to go and do stuff without him. I felt like he should do stuff with us. He said "your not getting my point, If you want to go do something and I dont want to go, then go without me, its ok"

My point is we are a family. He should do stuff with us and the kids once and a while.

I also told him that he doesnt help around the house at all. He said he just had no desire but was trying. I told him that I had no desire, but I did it anyway. OR it wouldnt get done.

So much more was said. Even talked about him being lazy and always asking me to get him this or that when I was busy and he was doing nothing. I would NEVER do that to him. BUT he knows I will do it for him so he uses that. SO, last night he fixed his own drink and snack. I told him that I dont mind doing it, just he needed to do it for him self. Even helping around the house...although he said that is why we have kids. I told him we cant expect them to do everything and we sit around and do nothing.

His thinking is So messed up right now.