So even if she texts me Good Morning, don't respond
Right! How can she miss you if you're responding? She will quickly realize that the only response she gets is when it's about the kids, so she'll have a lot of kid TM's. When you see that it is stuff that's not important. Keep your answers to one or two words. That helps you not to get into a R talk. You must not consider if it is impolite or not....b/c that's not the issue anymore. You answer with, "yes", "no", "maybe", or "I'll have to think on it".
It is hard for the LBH not to resue his WAW from the hardships she's facing. But remember, every time you babysit for her, or you pay her bills, or help her in other ways....you are assisting her to live apart from you.
I know you are not open to having your children exposed to any OM, but if there is another man (and I'm sure there is at least one), then the more he sees what life with your W and four children are like.....the quicker he'll take off running.
OM and your W are in a fantasy world they've created. It's time for them to get their eyes open to reality.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
