MLC 5 years on

[Sanderika]

Hi Tulsa and Thank You!!!!

It helps us (LBS) immeasurably to read the perspective of a man who has been where our H's have been or still are.

I also recognize the guilt in my H when he is in my presence. He has told me things such as: I don't think I could return and I don't see myself coming back. I have always wondered if it was his guilt or his pride and saving of face that is holding him back.

My H has been having an affair for 5 years. It makes it more of a relationship now not an affair. I wonder if he can come back......Only God can help us now....

I would love to converse more with you as well, please help us.

I would like to know how to treat him now. I would like to say or do something that would really make sense to him and open his eyes. BTW, my H is still in a MLC state, replay I assume. He is one who may never come back.....Maybe you do not believe that is possible. Maybe you think that at some point they do come out of it.

Thank you Tulsa, any help you can give us would be greatly appreciated.

Sanderika